After years of research trying to resolve the never ending emotional conflict Steve and I once faced, eventually I was directed to information online which helped me understand Steve was suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The professionals I consulted agreed, stating outright I should change the locks and file for divorce and that there was no cure. Even worse, as my search for help continued, I was then treated a fool for suggesting that he might get better.

Looking back now, I really don’t know how I found that courage, but I am glad I did, because after countless more hours research (and making tons of mistakes) I made a breakthrough and discovered the first of the skills I needed to learn, to create an emotionally balanced and successful family.

Steve and I do not accept the idea that Narcissism or Codependence are incurable and our philosophy is very different from most of what has been written on this subject previously. Because of our unique perspective in having lived through this ourselves, many psychologists and social workers have found new insight from our work and now use our programs with great success in their practices. Many experts on Narcissism and NPD now come to us for advice and some branches of the Salvation Army and other churches and aid organizations in Australia and the US now distribute our material to families in crisis.

Rather than being a scary incurable disorder, we believe narcissism (and its partner codependence) are present (to some degree) in most dysfunctional marriages and

that learning to grow beyond these patterns of behaviour  is the secret to an emotionally balanced and functional family.

Our program’s popularity has been due to the simple fact that even in abusive marriages our ideas get results. In our five years online we have helped thousands of couples in crisis find the same great marriage we have. 

Back in those days, I used to hide at home feeling ashamed and scared of bumping into my neighbors, for fear they may have heard us fighting. But now, only five years on, Steve and I have produced over 50 radio shows, written five e-books and two audio programs and hold classes on emotional intelligence in our local community. World wide we have over 70 thousand subscribers to our email list (in 37 countries) and receive regular invitations to speak.

Much later I discovered that none of the people saying I should leave Steve had good marriages and I want you to look out for this too! If someone offering you advice hasn’t got a good marriage, how can they possibly help you?

Scared as I was (and even though his behavior was hurting me), I decided I was not going to abandon him. I knew there just HAD to be answers and that leaving was the wrong thing for me to do.

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“Our program’s popularity has been due to the simple fact

that even in abusive marriages our ideas get results. In our

five years online we have helped thousands of couples in

crisis build a stronger marriage and family life.”