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Below is a guide to purchasing our books & resources . . .
Back from The Looking Glass – 13 Steps to a Peaceful Home
– 13 steps to end the fights and protect yourself from abuse whether you leave or stay.
10 Steps to Overcome Codependence – Do you feel your partner has stolen your happiness? Is your life spent waiting for them to call?
– Steps to heal yourself of codependent behavior patterns that make you unattractive and damage your relationships.
The Love Safety Net Workbook – The 4 Pillars of a Stable and Happy Home
– Practical skills and exercises to build better family relationships
Little Book of Empathy Love & Friendship – Magazine Style Practical Advice on Becoming a Person that People Care About
Emotional Stupidity – Some of the Emotionally Stupid Mistakes That People Make
– Simplifying some of the most advanced concepts in human psychology.
Your Blind Spot – Overcoming Your Own Unhealthy Narcissism
The Love Safety Net Membership Site – “The Love Safety Net “Love Boat Cruise”
– Explore our 13 part series of movies and written transcripts, delivered weekly by email, where you will learn what your emotions are trying to tell you (and how to best regulate them for success in love and in your life).
Reconnect – (Audio) Discussion Points for Couples or Groups
Lovable Me – (Audio) Personal & Portable Emotional Support
– Lovable Me is your own personal and portable emotional support – available for you anywhere any time.
I am interested to know whether you should confront your abuser?
Hi David,
No we don’t recommend that. There may come a time when you have built a little more trust – where you can send them to a page you choose on our site and say “Hey I was just looking at something online and I think it may be about you.” But for now please work through the steps and exercises yourself in Back From the Looking Glass, The Love Safety Net Workbook and 10 Steps to Overcome Codependence – then for further encouragement and insight our other short books and audios and the articles here on our blog.
I have a new job and part of my new hire training included conflict resolution. There is a lot to it and I was really impressed with the skills offered to help (I work for a hospital where a conflict about a treatment could have serious consequences depending on who is right so communication is key). It occured to me that my husband, whom I think has npd and has used intmidation, put downs “crazy making” and sadly physical aggression at times, has a problem with conflict(as do I). Even though he is confrontational, he lacks the skills to RESOLVE conflict. I think it is what is in part causing his low self esteem. In the training they described styles of dealing with conflict that fall into two categories – silence or violence. Both are unproductive and in a sense ways of avoiding resolving conflict. It reminded me of the co-dependent/npd dance. Admiting that we both lack conflict skills (most people do)seemed nicer than labeling my husband as having npd – they really need a nicer name. Not having skills to handle conflict creates a ripple effect through relationships. I am more aware of my fear of conflict, but still lack the courage. I have created some serious financial problems for us by not addressing the shared financial responsiblities, and taking most of it on myself. Being a little afraid of confrontation can be very irresponsible. I appreciate your practical advice about limiting abuse, although I have had a tough time changing. Thank you for your words and emails, they really help.