Companionship: A Two Way Street
"They never talk to me", is the most common complaint I hear from codependents about their marriage partner. I find this especially sad, because this person rarely sees how deep and tragic their wound. This subject is so sad, I…
Better Conversation – Part 1
I've heard it said if you don’t discover what a new person you meet is genuinely passionate about within the first few minutes of talking to them—you are unlikely to ever form a lasting connection. I would take this even…
Better Conversation – Part 2
In our last lesson, I talked about SR's. These are standard responses or stories that people tell over and over again. In today's lesson, I am going to share two techniques that will encourage the person you are conversing with…
Be Prepared this Thanksgiving & Christmas
~ Last Updated November 18th 2016 ~ “Are there holiday plans you make over and over, forgetting they only cause you suffering and pain?” Think back to how your plans really turned out ... A road trip / vacation with your kids.…
Scripts to Get You Out of a Jam
My Reminder List for When Things Get Tight . . . Things to Stop 1. Stop asking your partner to change. - As much as it sometimes feels the right thing to do - it seldom works and can really put a dampener on…
Preparing Emotionally for the Holiday Season
Updated November 25th 2019“Are there traps you fall into every holiday season while forgetting they only cause you suffering?”Think back to the last time you did any of the following and how those plans really turned out for you...Bringing up…
Your Goal and Strategy
Continued from: What You Want I will add a few more questions below each point before I open this up for your comments and questions . . . 1. Are you clear about what you want in life? - Are…
Negotiating With Your Family
The Best Ways of Negotiating Within Family Hierarchies A research paper on Tactics of hierarchy negotiation (from The University of Texas at Austin and the Norwegian Institute of Public Health, Oslo, Norway) Opens by stating that . . . "Since resources flow to…