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Arrogance is Not the Only Test for Narcissism

The most common test for narcissism describes a person with an inflated opinion of themselves who is haughty, arrogant and lacks empathy ... but this can be misleading.

My husband Steve and I are not doctors. Instead we became experts on narcissism by living through Steve’s battle with this disorder ourselves. Over the past 5 years we have helped thousands of couples and families and have devised a quick test which includes 3 vital questions you must ask yourself to get straight to the heart of what narcissism is about in a practical and useful way.

A Better Test for Narcissism

People with narcissistic tendencies are usually charming in public while being critical and abusive to their family in private and so narcissists are good at making other people feel they are to blame for the fights.

The problem is that a person who is always haughty, arrogant, and emotionally distant is unlikely to test positive for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Only looking for arrogance and a lack of empathy as the test for narcissism can lead to people suffering from GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder), SPD (Schizoid Personality Disorder) or even people who are on the autism spectrum, being misdiagnosed by their spouse or family.  

Instead a person with NPD will be two-faced and manipulative, meaning that a lot of the time they will NOT appear arrogant but socially well adjusted, charming and polite.

This Test for Narcissism Can be Misleading

Kim Cooper

"I transformed our bad marriage ... even after the professionals said it was hopeless and I had no choice

but to leave Steve or change the locks ... "

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- What is Narcissism? - The many meanings of the word narcissism through history.

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Narcissism tests can be misleading.

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“Respect has become a vital part of our relationship ...”


Dear Kim & Steve, Before this year has gone, I wish to thank you both most sincerely for helping me save my marriage.


At the beginning of this year, all seemed hopeless and my husband and I had separated under very unpleasant circumstances.


Totally distressed and unable to make sense of my husband's behaviour,

I stumbled upon your website 'by accident'. This, as well as your wonderful emails and podcasts helped me to gradually understand what had been going on in my marriage.


Nine months later, my husband and I are back together (and have been since May). We are both very happy and respect has become a vital part of our relationship. It has taken time and great patience to rebuild trust, but our friendship is stronger than ever and for the first time I feel he respects me for who I am.


Every day is a blessing, even though there is still work to be done.


We would not be together today if it were not for your wonderful website and positive message. I am sure many people have already said this, but please never doubt the good you both do.


God bless you and yours this Christmas!


Eleana Kerr

(Australia)

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- Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Your Partner

Are You Treated Differently in Private than in Public?

  1. -Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Yourself

Are Your Nerves Shattered from Hiding Your Shame?

  1. -Codependency in Yourself

Do You Give Your Best but it is Never Enough?

  1. -Codependency in Your Partner

Has Your Relationship Become a Depressing Chore?

- Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Your Partner

Are You Treated Differently in Private than in Public?

  1. -Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Yourself

Are Your Nerves Shattered from Hiding Your Shame?