Hi, I’m Kim Cooper and welcome to our site!

My husband Steve and I have lots of personal experience with narcissism and can offer a guess that if you are looking for information on this subject, what you really need is guidance and hope. I trust that our story can offer you both. Your search is over - we have all the information you need and be sure to subscribe to our free radio show before leaving because as soon as you do you will be directed to the page where I will give you three questions to ask yourself to be sure that it is not YOU causing the fights and I also want to share with you three things that you should stop doing immediately (that most partners of narcissists do daily) that will only make matters worse! But first our story ...

After years of fighting and emotional abuse, I discovered that Steve was suffering from Narcissism or NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I was told by nearly everyone to divorce him and that there was no cure. I was treated like a fool for thinking he could get better. Despite this (and although he was hurting me) I refused to abandon him. In my heart I knew that leaving was the wrong thing for me to do. There HAD to be answers. I received lots of professional help and advice and learned a lot about psychology and I made a lot of mistakes until finally I discovered the steps to end the abuse. Steve and I have a great marriage now and we want to help you find the same. If you are feeling anxious, unloved and are wanting more respect, love and affection in your life, we understand and we are here to help. Perhaps you, your partner or a family member suffers from narcissism? ...

50/50 Men and Women with NPD

I say he, because I write from our experience, but there are many narcissistic women too, the statistics say that there are more men than women with narcissism, but we don’t believe that, our audience is about 50/50.

He may lie about you or paint a bad picture of you to gain sympathy from others and to justify his own bad behavior. You probably have no idea all of the lies he is telling you as well as the lies and exaggerations he is telling others about you.

Fights about money

If he makes fights when you try and talk about money he may be hiding credit cards or money transactions and his narcissism will cause him to pretend these fights are your fault.

Mind elsewhere

There are very few people who really understand narcissism or believe there to be a cure, and those who say ‘leave and no contact’ are giving dangerous advice. This is exactly how to provoke rage and physical (and emotional) abuse and domestic violence in couples with these problems. It may also result in stalking. Even worse the perpetrator of the violence and stalking may be you! Partners of narcissists are often enraged by how callously their partners can ‘cast them aside’. More people are killed or injured when leaving their relationship or in the two months after leaving than at any other time. If you want to leave, that of course is OK, but please get our advice first on how to do it safely and how to get closure.

Before you give up on your marriage and before you take steps that may NOT improve your safety I want to share some comments with you from our subscribers ...

About the Back from the Looking Glass

“I read your e-book and found your advice to be sound, intelligent, reasonable, caring and truthful. You speak my language of “just say it like it is.” My husband and I were in the midst of a 2-day stand-off when I came across your web-site and e-book.  I learned a critical mistake I kept making ...” A readers response.

“Great job. I'm a physician and I deal with a few narcissists at work. I enjoy your show.”

A readers response.

“My husband looked at me with tenderness and relief. We then hugged, talked of love, issues with our marriage and how we both wanted to end the madness. It was the first time neither of us placed blame and we were able to have a constructive conversation of what steps to take next. Your simple advice was the turning point!!! Thank you!!!” A readers response.

“Your website has been a big huge help for me in terms of gaining perspective on what's going on in my marriage.  I've found lots of stuff to affirm what I've been doing well, learned where I could do better and most importantly gained the kind of insight I needed into my husband's frame of mind and emotional life.  I can barely believe how well things are working actually.  After so many years of struggle and hurting one another we've finally managed to come together on the road to a better marriage.  And I do mean WE - he's trying to trust me more and has been open to making changes where he can - after years of resistance & battling for control, he's trying. All thanks to what I've learned from your website and the changes that I've been encouraged and supported to make. We've both  come a long way in just a few shorts months. I can't thank you guys enough”. A readers response.

Thank you for writing the new eBook. I bought it as soon as the email came yesterday.  It is great. You are the only voice of hope for those of us dealing with this issue. A readers response.

Reading your material brought all of what I had learned in the past together and made things even more clear. I really like your approaches, samples of how to say things, and a sense that I can do this. I have dealt with a lot of people as a psych nurse and have not taken things personally, knowing that their behavior is part of the pathology. And now from what you say, I feel like I am going into psych nurse/or parent mode to be more detached and stronger and in control of me when things erupt. I am gradually understanding the dynamics of NPD. I listened to one of the programs today and look forward to more. I am grateful that you have so much available. A readers response.

Kim..out of all the advice and words I have heard from you...these were the most powerful   “Shame and Guilt serve a purpose on CHANGING behavour. Once the behavour has changed..they serve no purpose and should be left behind.” Amazing words to me..... I have held on to those far too long as the damage done was long ago and looking backwards only impares my ability to enjoy today! A readers response.

I went to see my counselor yesterday without my wife and read him the last page of your workbook.  He thought it was one of the most beautiful things he has ever heard.  Today we had another appointment with both me and my wife and he made me read it to her.

 

"Learning to love is about learning to help others feel safe and allow natural attachment and trust to grow..."

 

He thought both the first and last sentence were particularly great.

 

I thought you would like to know.  So now, I am charged with the task of seeking to understand what is needed and what is missing so I can become someone that she can count on, appreciate, value and love. A readers response.

Thank you for ALL that you BOTH do... you are incredible... you have helped immensely.... I continue listening to your great recordings plus the downloads.... amazing  A readers response.

Don’t expect your partner to admit to or fix this problem; we offer things for YOU to do, to make you emotionally and physically safer and to bring love and respect back to you in your community and your home.

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Immediately after subscribing you will be directed to a private page where I will give you three questions to ask yourself to be sure that it is not you causing the fights! I also want to share with you three things that you should stop doing immediately (that most partners of narcissists do daily) that will only make matters worse. All of this is completely free when you subscribe and is only two simple steps away. Even if you do not purchase any of our eBooks or audio products you will still receive loads of free information including our radio shows which our listeners say they love.

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Are you going to keep letting what your friends and family are saying direct your life? I know that everyone told me I should leave Steve but when it comes to matters of love we need to listen to our own heart. I won’t tell you to leave or to stay, I will let you listen to your heart and give you advice of what to do either way.

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P.S. In my journey I discovered that the online self-professed ‘expert’ on narcissism, who has been influencing the medical profession for years, saying there is no cure or hope, is no expert at all, but instead a mentally ill man who may know about symptoms, but is dangerously wrong about what the family of someone with narcissism should do to protect themselves and to get help. An international TV documentary is being made right now about him and all of the people he has hurt. He has many sites and he has influenced many people online about there being no cure for narcissism and he is very seductive and abusive so please be careful while researching this topic! Kim.