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Do you give your best but it is never enough?
Has your relationship become a depressing chore?
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Your Partner
Are You Treated Different in Private than in Public?
Are Your Nerves Shattered from Hiding Your Shame?
Hi, I’m Steve Cooper ...
As easy as it can be to blame your partner for your troubles
If you want to end your loneliness and frustration you will need to first look at yourself.
Check yourself for these signs of Narcissism ...
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You yearn for the attention of ‘that special someone’ who will make you feel special and important.
If you compare the low prices of our ebooks to marriage counseling, divorce or the risks involved with mood altering drugs, you will see they will actually save you money.
Because you have found us I know there is a good chance that you (and perhaps your children) are in trouble. I also know that you won’t be able to just keep ignoring this because I have been through this myself I also know just how hard the first steps to a better life can be.
Because Kim and I do understand and do care I hope that you will make the decision today to start working through the personalized steps we have to offer.
I know, because I tried all the expensive things first, before I discovered these methods that really work.
I think you will find that what Kim and I have to say will ‘ring true’, because it all comes from our real life experience (and not someone’s theory on how things should work but don’t) ...
Most people experience the feelings above to some extent, but if you have answered yes to more than half of the statements above and you experience strong feelings when you consider these points you may be trapped in false pride. If unaddressed this will cause your life to stall and your development to remain arrested, causing you to miss out on all life has to offer you.
Narcissism is not a disease and drugs are not the answer - but if you are on medication you want to stop, please get professional advice as withdrawal symptoms can be dangerous and you may need to decrease the dose gradually over time.
There are no Drugs to Treat the Loneliness of Narcissism
Do you really enjoy the idea of marriage counseling? Personally I found sharing our problems with a therapist very distasteful.
“No One Gets Married Wanting to Get Divorced & all Kinds of Horrible Statistics Show that Divorce is Not the Solution People Pretend it to be.”
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How Long has Your Unhappy Marriage Gone on Already?
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Can you Really Keep Pretending Your Next Relationship will be Better?
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Is Hiding Your Own Embarrassment and Shame (and trying to blame it on others) Making your Family Hate You?
“The special person whose attention you crave
is like a mirage in the desert;
Each new admirer looks like the perfect one;
but only for a short time before the illusion fades
and then just like a mirage this fantasy can
lead your life to ruin ...”
The answer to this problem is not easy - but can’t be avoided if you want to break free of the private hell you may have unwittingly found yourself in.
With a bit of coaching I bet that you can solve your problems yourself. There is no shame in needing a coach either - because if you think about it - all winners have them. Your marriage is the biggest match of your life - so I wonder if you will do all you must to win?
I am going to suggest some big changes - but I think you are probably more than up to this. It is you who will need to do the work but it is you who will gain the love, praise and respect for your efforts!
And the answer is simply, ‘trust’.
But maybe you gave up trusting anyone a long time ago?
Leaving is not the solution people pretend it to be. Leaving does not guarantee that you will find the love that you long for and it will be much easier for you to learn these new skills while you are in a relationship.
Is False Pride Destroying Your LIfe?
Drugs Are not the Answer
Marriage Counseling is NOT the Solution
“There is nothing nobler or more admirable
than when two people who see eye to eye
keep house as man and wife,
confounding their enemies and delighting their friends.”
Homer
“The most important thing a father can do
for his children is to love their mother.”
Theodore Hesburgh
Narcissism Checklist
“I used to believe that marriage would diminish me, reduce my options. That you had to be someone less to live with someone else when, of course, you have to be someone more.”
Candice Bergen
The truth is before you can trust anyone else, you first need to learn to trust yourself.
I want to share with you the 4 skills that saved our marriage...
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You are sometimes shocked at what the world expects from you and feel angry that life isn’t easier.
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You feel trapped in a bubble where nothing can hurt or touch you, but there is something that separates you from others.
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You long for a ‘worthy opponent’ or equal who can match or even ‘tame’ you.
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The thought of admitting your embarrassment at your own mistakes is horrifying.
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When people disobey you or question you it makes you feel (mysteriously) very angry inside.
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You resent people who blame their sadness, anger or disappointment on you, even if it is your fault.
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You have trouble asking for what you need directly.
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You have trouble staying interested in the conversation when you are not the one talking.
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You sometimes wish you knew how to surrender.
Does this Sound Like You?
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Let us Help You Find the Love Life that You are Longing For
Whether pornography is a problem for you or not, Kim and I want to help you find your way back to feeling loved and accepted for who you truly are and to be free of the ‘bubble’ that you may now feel yourself trapped inside.
“A pornography addict is like Narcissus himself, staring into
a pool (his computer) and longing for love that he will
never find there, while abandoning everyone in his life who once loved him.”
Pornography is idealized fantasy and encourages lying, deception and deceit, all symptoms of narcissism. Web-cam and chat room sex and romance are even worse for encouraging the development of a false ego or a pretend personality because of the temptation to present an unrealistic version of yourself. It seems obvious to me now that all of these activities can only feed loneliness and NPD. There have also been numerous studies linking pornography use with marriage breakdown, emotional and domestic abuse and child abuse.
Does Pornography Feed Narcissism?
We offer simple steps to help you end the loneliness ...
There are things that you can do to ‘break free’ of this curse and enjoy a healthy and deeply fulfilling marriage and sex life, while having your longing for love fully satisfied.
Narcissism can be overcome but it does not get better by itself; untreated it leads to multiple relationship breakdowns, nervous breakdown, career breakdowns and can see it’s victim (the narcissist) end up in jail or on the street and their family disjointed and in tatters.
My name is Steve Cooper and my wife Kim and I do not believe that narcissism is incurable. Back when Kim was looking for help online, she was scared badly by the ‘expert’ who described my behaviour very accurately and told her there was no hope and that she should leave me. I was very lucky that Kim met someone with better advice and so when things got better between us, we decided we would share what Kim had discovered.
Narcissism Love and Sex
Narcissus was cursed by the Greek god Artemis on the request of his many lovers and admirers; all upset by his infidelity and disregard for their feelings. The curse was for him to fall in love with his own reflection, leaving him sitting day in and out by the same pool, longing for himself in the water but not able to touch or be loved by his image until he withered away and died out of loneliness and despair.
I want to share with you the 4 skills that saved our marriage...
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Please Note: You need to pay particular attention to the gap finder exercise in the last chapter.
Please Note: You need to pay particular attention to the gap finder exercise in the last chapter.
“Any fool can have a trophy wife.
It takes a real man to have a trophy marriage.“
Diane Sollee
Are Your Nerves Shattered from Hiding Your Shame?
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Back from The Looking Glass
Living with the Disorder
that Causes Domestic Abuse ...
Kim and Steve Cooper
Relationship Experts - Because We’ve Been There!
- Affairs (physical, emotional & fantasy)
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