Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic Personality Disorder can cause fights that may
include verbal abuse and insults, name calling, and other violence and abuse in your home, and may see you isolated and blamed for things you didn’t do. Steve and I have gone public with our story in the hope we can help you learn to recognize and deal with this common disorder.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder describes the behavior of a person who is haughty, arrogant and competitive and can never admit they are wrong.
What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
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People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder will often pair up with a codependent partner who keeps the peace rather than standing up for themselves and protecting themselves and their family from their partner’s wrongdoing (see Codependency and How to have a happy marriage) and the couple will pass these same behaviour patterns onto their children.
Very few people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder are diagnosed (as they do not believe there is anything wrong with them) and many psychologists believe this disorder incurable.
Confabulation - Changing or making up events from the past to suit a person’s purpose or agenda (this is something that people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder frequently do).
Supply - People suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder are said to be addicted to attention - and anyone who provides this attention may sometimes be called their ‘supply’.
Other terms that relate to Narcissistic Personality Disorder ...
Scapegoating - People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder scape-goat their deficiencies on other people and so may choose a partner who is less socially skilled than themselves or who has a lot of natural anxiety or guilt (see codependency).
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder In Your Partner
Are You Treated Differently in Private than in Public?
Are Your Nerves Shattered from Hiding Your Shame?
- What is Narcissism? - The many meanings of the word narcissism through history.
Narcissism tests can be misleading.
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our personal journey of recovery.
- Those Selfish Sneaky Brats - Meet the narcissists - an article on narcissism.
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Dear Kim and Steve,
I grew up with a narcissistic father who only made me feel special for being HIS son.
He would say to my face as a young teenager “You are my alibi”, as if this was an honor and the most important thing I could ever hope to be. He made it out to be a special role I was playing in his life. Being his alibi meant that over the years I was expected to lie to my family and cover for his immoral and illegal behaviour, even if that meant I had to take the blame for him and suffer the consequences.
Most of the time I only kept his secrets, because I didn’t want to hurt the people in my family he would constantly lie to. Mainly because of his influence, I did and said many things that I have since spent years living ashamed of. I hurt people close to me too by making poor choices that Dad would have approved of.
All my life, my father told terrible lies about everyone that I love (including my mother and my wife) and used these lies as excuses for his own immoral, criminal and selfish bad habits to continue in secrecy.
I haven’t been able to help him. He has cut me out of his family and now tells his parents (my grandparents), my step mother (who I adore) and my aunt terrible things about me -- but with your help, thank God, I have escaped becoming like him and have saved my own family and kids. Since you helped my wife I no longer have secrets from my family and now we have become a team.
This disorder is no joke and I am not surprised that doctors have no idea how to deal with it. My father is the most charming, decietful and manipulative man you could ever meet and divides everyone against each other. When my family needed a thoughtful and practical approach to our problem, the established support agencies had little to offer. Your books gave us the help and hope we so desparately needed.
Thankyou for sharing your story. You saved our family from a dark and terrible place that once lived inside of me.
(Name withheld)
This person will put their own needs and interests (no matter how irresponsible or immature) above the needs of their friends and family and blame other people for their shortcomings and mistakes (see Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Your Partner). You may also notice their habit of often criticising people behind their back.
- Affairs (physical, emotional & fantasy)
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